Comments on: Unintended Self-Discovery https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/ Games, Geekery, Life Tue, 09 Jun 2020 20:42:40 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.5 By: Chestnut https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-4166 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 20:42:40 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-4166 In reply to Telwyn.

Exactly! The time commitment gets me. 🙁 I completely understand that defensiveness. It’s a good boundary to set.

]]> By: Chestnut https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-4164 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 20:41:07 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-4164 In reply to everwake.

THANK YOU! Going to do that now to most of my servers lol. And yeah, I can only handle a few channels.

]]> By: Chestnut https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-4163 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 20:40:31 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-4163 In reply to Redbeard.

I don’t particularly enjoy Skype, either, but to be honest, I miss just simple AIM and AIM group chats. 😛

400 guild members?! That’s insane. I mean, props to the folks who can manage it. I know I couldn’t!

]]> By: Chestnut https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-4162 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 20:39:05 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-4162 In reply to Bhagpuss.

YES! The ping noise drives me bananas. And I like that idea—using it as we prefer, not necessarily as “expected”.

]]> By: Chestnut https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-4161 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 20:37:57 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-4161 In reply to Jeromai.

I’m glad I’m not the only lurker out there, lol. 🙂

]]> By: Chestnut https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-4160 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 20:37:33 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-4160 In reply to Jaedia.

I’m going to look into muting completely and shoving stuff into a folder. Maybe that will make me feel a bit more able to dip in, even if only to one or two channels where most folks I love congregate. <3

]]> By: Telwyn https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-3599 Fri, 22 May 2020 07:48:24 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-3599 Thanks for the mention 🙂
The topic annoys me so because I see there is so much potential for reaching out to other creatives (especially in ttrpgs) on this platform, but that requires even more time commitment, when I’m feeling really stretched already. The current situation has me working harder than normal, not less in the daytime – so I’m rather defensive of what I allow to creep on to my daily routine at the moment…

]]> By: everwake https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-3435 Thu, 21 May 2020 14:58:02 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-3435 Right clicking on a server icon and pressing ‘Mute Server > Until I turn it back on’ has always worked for me.

I only keep up with the Blaugust server and my own personal friends and family server. I find that’s as much Discord as I can handle.

]]> By: Redbeard https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-3417 Thu, 21 May 2020 12:52:49 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-3417 I’ve actually just started using Discord, and to say that certain aspects of it are not clearly explained and identified is an understatement.

There’s plenty of interesting functions, but I can see how it can quickly be a jumbled mess that makes me long for poorly executed software like Skype for Business.

The concept of being overwhelmed with Discord I can agree with, especially when you’d rather do other things with other people, but the “unread” for other chats keeps trying to suck you back in. And if you’re the Completionist or OCD type, having anything undone will drive a person crazy.

I was chatting in a 5-man instance in WoW Classic yesterday, and found out that some of the guilds on my server have something on the order of 350 or 400 guild members –not toons, but members. I can barely comprehend being able to follow chat with that many people much less actually play games. And the Discord….

Oy.

]]> By: Bhagpuss https://gamergirlconfessions.com/2020/05/20/unintended-self-discovery/#comment-3416 Thu, 21 May 2020 10:38:51 +0000 https://gamergirlconfessions.com/?p=1743#comment-3416 I can happily sit in a room with a ringing phone and let it ring on unil it stops but even I find Discord’s pings annoying. I feel like someone has literally sat down and worked on getting the sound just pathetic enough to induce feelings of guilt if you ignore it.

I’m not sure how Discord’s default settings work but I’m guessing they leave most things “off” until you activate them because although I’m nominally in half a dozen Discord channels the only one that pings is Blaugust. Although, that said, it does sometimes ping when I can’t see any new activity, so maybe it’s other channels piping up. If so, they must all be pretty quiet most of the time.

Like Jeromai I could sort all this out if I wanted to but I really don’t want to. I prefer to feel like I’m the one in control, not dancing to Discord’s pinging tune. I think the technology exists to be used as we, the consumers, prefer, not for us to fit ourselves around whatever the designer thought was a good idea.

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